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- THE K.P.E.I, KALL POSITIVE EXPERIENCE
INVENTORY
- © 1996, 1992, 1988, 1987, 1986 Rob Kall, M.Ed.
The positive experience inventory is a partial list of experiences, behaviors, memories,
observations imaginings and fantasies that are heartwarming, uplifting, energizing, or
that make people feel good, happy, ecstatic, joyful, confident, strong, loved, capable,
masterful, exuberant, euphoric, thrilled, excited, inspired, etc. For brevity's
sake, we'll call these varieties of positive experience "PEs". There are
certainly many unlisted categories and items. As you discover new ones of your own, add
them to this list, and share them by sending them to the address listed below so we can
add them to the KPEI for other people to consider. Use this list to open your eyes
to and widen your view of PE opportunities. Use it to explore your positive experience
memory (PEM) treasures to create a PEM Library.
( If you wish to share your PEMs, send them to the below address.
They'll be used for research and to help others enjoy positive, heartwarming feelings.
Send all correspondence to: Rob Kall, M.ED. smile@futurehealth.org
211 N. Sycamore, Newtown, PA 18940, 215-504-1700
fax 215-860-5374
Copying for personal use or back-up is permitted and recommended before you begin to use
the KPEI.
Copying for use by anyone other than the purchaser or recipient of the original, or
copying for research, distribution, classes, seminars or other publications is forbidden
without express permission of the author.
Please contact me for formal permission to use the KPEI in your work. I'd like to
hear from you and how you are using it. If you translate it into another language, please
send me a copy so I can add it to the website for others to make use of. 
- Let me know if you
find the KPEI useful.
ACHIEVEMENT/GROWTH
-BIRTH
-WINNING
-COMPLETION
-GROWING UP
-CAREER ADVANCEMENT
-BEING PUBLISHED
-REACHING MILESTONES
-REACHING LIFE GOALS
-CHILD REACHING LIFE GOAL
-OBSERVING A CHILD ACCULTURATING
-SEEING PATTERNS OF GROWTH THROUGH THE PERSPECTIVE OF TIME
-FEELING ACTUALIZED
ANTICIPATORY PLEASURE
-SPECIAL EVENTS
-SEXUAL PLEASURE
-SPECIAL MEALS OR FOOD
-SPECIAL MOMENTS
-ACTIVITIES
-SEEING LONG UNSEEN PERSON
APPRECIATING AND BEING APPRECIATED
-RECEIVING AWARD/HONOR
-BEING ACCEPTED AS A LEADER
-FINDING UNEXPECTED RESPECT OR APPRECIATION
-RECEIVING RESPECT/ENCOURAGEMENT FROM SOMEONE I RESPECT
-IN THE FORM OF ACTION, NOT WORDS
RECEIVING RECOGNITION:
-media attention
-recognized by a stranger
BEAUTY IN NATURE /ART
-VISTAS/PANORAMAS
-NATURE
-flowers
-animals
-sky, clouds
-fresh air
-GRACEFUL MOVEMENT
-MUSICAL PASSAGES
-operatic climaxes
-ART
CHILDHOOD MEMORIES
-RECALLING CHILDISH FEELINGS--
-PLAYFULNESS
-INNOCENCE
-WONDER
-SHARING
-FRIENDSHIP
-DISCOVERIES
CHILDREN
-CUTE BEHAVIOR
-KIDS SAY THE DARNDEST (cute)THINGS
-AFFECTION FROM
-WATCHING PERFORMANCE
-OTHERS' COMPLIMENTS ABOUT MY CHILD
-INNOCENCE
-BUBBLING EFFERVESCENCE
-SILLINESS
-WONDER/DISCOVERY
CONNECTEDNESS, CONTINUITY; FEELING SENSE OF
-TRADITION SHARED OR PASSED ALONG TO THE NEXT GENERATION
-ONENESS WITH THE WORLD/UNIVERSE
-COMMUNITY
-JOINING
-GROUP ACCEPTANCE
-SPIRITUAL JOINING
-GOOD NEIGHBORS
-GOOD FRIENDS
-TRUSTWORTHINESS
-FEELING PART OF A LARGER WHOLE
-PARADES
-RE-CONTINUITY; CARING THAT PICKS RIGHT UP AFTER LONG SEPARATION
-CROWD/STADIUM MASS BEHAVIOR
IN CONTROL, LIFE IN ORDER
-HAVING A NEAT HOUSE
-LIKING MY APPEARANCE
-FEELING ORGANIZED
-BEING ON TIME
-FEELING SLIM AND TRIM OR AT A GOOD WEIGHT
-EATING HEALTHY
-EXERCISING
-CLEARING A DESK
-FINISHING STRAIGHTENING UP OR ORGANIZING
-OTHER MASTERY EXPERIENCES COOPERATION, SHARING
-WORKING WELL AS A TEAM MEMBER
-SINGING WITH OTHERS
-CREATING WITH OTHERS
-ALTRUISTIC PROJECTS
-OBSERVING TALENTED GROUP ACTION
-LIKING CO-WORKERS
DECISIONS, COMMITMENTS
-TO TAKE RISK
-TO MAKE COMMITMENT
-TO MAKE LOVE FOR FIRST TIME
-TO GET MARRIED
-TO BUY A HOUSE
-TO GO INTO BUSINESS
-TO QUIT A JOB
DISARMING NEGATIVE FEELINGS
-MAKING UP AFTER A FIGHT
-WINNING A CONCESSION
-CONCEDING
-FORGIVING
-BEING FORGIVEN
DISCOVERY, NOVELTY
-SUDDEN INSPIRATION
-SUDDEN INSIGHT/UNDERSTANDING
-DISCOVERING A SECRET:
-of nature
-of a person
-of a group
-of a thing
-DISCOVERING SHARED:
-connection
-idea(s)
-experience
-background
-belief
-SERENDIPITY
-NEW:
-thing
-friend
-idea, meaning
-place
-sensation
-interest
-activity
-experience
SPECIAL EXPERIENCES
-SPECIAL EVENTS
-VACATIONS
-GOING OUT TO EAT
-ACTIVITY WITH FRIENDS
-TRIPS
-SPECIAL MEALS
-PARTIES
-SENSATION SEEKING/ EXCITEMENT
-GOING SOMEPLACE DIFFERENT
-SUCCESSFUL HANDLING OR AVOIDANCE OF BUREAUCRATIC
HASSLES
-HUMOROUS EVENTS
FANTASIES, PLANNING, ANTICIPATING
-STORIES
-THINKING ABOUT YOUR FUTURE
-PLANNING FOR VACATION,
-DECORATING,
-PARTY, TRIP, VISIT/VISITOR
-SEEING LIGHT AT END OF THE TUNNEL
-ANTICIPATION
-HAVING A FANTASY COME TRUE
JUSTICE
-righting a wrong
-getting recognition and proper respect after ill treatment
-receiving due apology
-winning a just reward or judgement.
FREEDOM, RELEASE
-FREE TIME
-FROM CONSTRAINTS
-FROM TIME PRESSURE
-FROM DEBT/PAYING OFF DEBT
-EASED RULES
-FROM RESPONSIBILITY
-NOT HAVING TO WORK
-BEING ALONE, FREE FROM DISTRACTION, INTERRUPTION
-SOLVING, FIXING, CURING A PROBLEM
-VACATION
-DECISION TO LEAVE AND DOING IT
-CUTTING DOWN/ QUITTING BAD HABIT OR ADDICTION
FINDING
-SOMETHING LOST
-A BARGAIN
-A SPECIAL GIFT
-SOMETHING YOU COLLECT THAT'S HARD TO FIND
-SOMETHING THOUGHT TO BE LOST
GIVING/ RECEIVING
-SURPRISES
-PAMPERING
-AFFECTION
-LOVE
-PLEASANT HELLO TO/FROM STRANGER
-PROVIDING FOR OTHERS
-WITHOUT EXPECTING ANYTHING BACK
-A GIFT
-ATTENTION
-APPRECIATION
-INTIMACY
-INTEREST
-EXCITING NEWS
-A PRIZE
-COOKING
-PERSONALLY MADE GIFT
-THOUGHTFULLY CHOSEN GIFT
PLAYING/HAVING FUN
-ATHLETIC ACTIVITIES
-EXERCISE
-ENTERTAINMENT
-BEING PLAYFUL, CHILDLIKE
-RECREATION
-DANCING
-PARTYING
HEARING GOOD NEWS
-PERSONAL
-LOCAL
-NATIONAL/WORLD
-PAST DECISIONS WORKING OUT
-PAST PREDICTIONS/ OPINIONS PROVING RIGHT
-THAT IMPACTS ON YOU FAVORABLY
HELPING, HEALING, BEING HELPED, DOING GOOD
-HEALING
-FIXING SOMETHING
-THE ACT OF VOLUNTEERING
-DOING VOLUNTEER WORK
-OBSERVING THE EFFECTS OF HELPING/ CARING
-RELIEVING OTHER'S SUFFERING
-SEEING PERSON GET BETTER
-SEEING GROUP IMPROVE GET BETTER
-LISTENING WITH EMPATHY & CARING
-HELPING SOMEONE ACHIEVE
-CONTRIBUTING TO A GOOD CAUSE
-MAKING A VIRTUOUS RATHER THAN AN EASIER DECISION
HOBBIES, AVOCATIONS
-GARDENING
-KNITTING/ SEWING
-MUSIC
-COOKING
-PUTTERING
-CREATING OR MAKING SOMETHING
-OTHER
HUGS & KISSES
-SPONTANEOUS/UNEXPECTED
-TOUCHING SOMEONE
-UNUSUAL LOCATIONS, SITUATIONS
-AFTER LONG SEPARATION
-FLIRTING/BEING FLIRTED WITH
WORKING
-ENJOYING WORK or JOB
-RECEIVING or FINISHING a CHALLENGING ASSIGNMENT
-HAVING GOOD IDEAS AT WORK
-PERFORMING WELL AT WORK
-GETTING LONG WELL WITH CO-WORKERS
-LEARNING NEW SKILLS
-IMPROVING SKILLS
-THINGS GOING WELL WITH SUBORDINATES OR SUPERVISORS
-BOSS PLEASED WITH WORK
-FINDING MEANING AND VALUE IN WORK
KNOWING
-BEING PROVED RIGHT
-HAVING HAPPY,, INTERESTING GOSSIP
-HAVING INFORMATION READILY AVAILABLE
-HAVING EXPERIENCE
-HAVING or BEING PREPARED WITH A TIMELY ANSWER
LAUGHTER/HUMOR
-FUNNY EXPERIENCES
-JOKES
-COMEDIANS
-MOVIES
-STORIES
LOVING/CARING
-LOVE IN BLOOM
-AFFECTION
-INCREASING INTIMACY
-PARENTS
-helping your parents
-handling old hassles patiently and lovingly
-parental love from in-laws
CHILDREN-see category CHILDREN
LUCK
-LOTTERY
-GAMBLING
-SERENDIPITY
MAGIC
-OBSERVING THE UNEXPLAINABLE
-GETTING AN INKLING OF THE FUTURE
-SOMEONE UNEXPLAINABLY KNOWING ABOUT YOU OR SOMETHING ELSE
MONEY or FINANCIAL GOOD EXPERIENCES
-BUYING:
-clothing
-gifts
-house extras, new furniture
-toys, treats
-SAVING MONEY
-FINDING A BARGAIN
-CUTTING A GOOD DEAL
-HAVING ENOUGH MONEY OR CREDIT
-FEELING FINANCIALLY SECURE
NOSTALGIA
-LOVING, SAD/SWEET MEMORIES OF THE DEAD
-REMINDERS OF TIMES OR PEOPLE GONE OR DEAD
- GESTURES,
-FLOWERS, PHOTOS,
MEMENTOS, MONUMENTS
-RESURRECTION--REVIVALS, RENEWAL,
-REFURBISHING, RECONSTRUCTING
OBSERVING/ READING/ HEARING ABOUT
-MOST OF THE OTHER
CATEGORIES
-BRAVERY OR COURAGE
-INSPIRING ACTIONS
-A GOOD STORY
-A MOVING PASSAGE IN BOOK, MOVIE, PLAY, BALLET, MUSIC
-NATURE
-BEAUTY
-FIRST TIME
-SENSE OF WONDER
-LEARNING
-COURAGE THAT BRINGS
GROWTH OR PLEASURE
-SPIRITUAL GROWTH
OPENING or WARMING
-TO CHANGE
-TO INTIMACY
-TO CARING
-TO FORGIVENESS
-HEALING OLD WOUNDS
-MOVING TOWARD
GENTLENESS OR CARING
FROM COLD, HARDNESS
PEAK PERFORMANCE
-FEELING "ON THE BALL"
-FEELING "IN THE GROOVE."
-REACHING A PERSONAL BEST
-FLOWING ON TRACK
-EXPRESSING CREATIVITY
-MOMENTS IN SPORTS EVENTS
-SUCCESS IN COMPETITION
-INTELLIGENCE
-INSIGHT
-SELF MASTERY
-FEELING MASTERFUL or IN CONTROL
-CONCENTRATION
-CONFIDENCE
-ENERGETIC
-ENTHUSIASTIC
-OPEN/CARING
-MOTIVATED
-HAPPY
-ECSTATIC
PETS
-LOYALTY
-AFFECTION
-GREETING YOU
POSSESSIONS
-ENJOYING OWNERSHIP
-NEW THINGS
-DEBT FREE
-BILLS PAID OFF
PRIDE
-IN FAMILY
-IN COUNTRY
-IN GROUP
-IN A PERSON'S:
-growth
-achievement
-performance
-recognition
-success
SAFETY/SECURITY
-REACHING SAFETY
-RELIEF FROM PROBLEMS, DANGER, THREAT
-KNOWING FAMILY IS SAFE, SECURE AND WELL CARED FOR.
SATISFACTION OR SAVORING
-DOING A GOOD JOB
-ACTING VIRTUOUSLY
-PROVIDING FOR FAMILY
-REACHING GOAL
-ENJOYING FRUITS OF LABOR
SELF ESTEEM
-LIKING YOUR APPEARANCE
-FEELING ATTRACTIVE
-FEELING HEALTHY
-FEELING POPULAR/LIKED
-FEELING NEEDED
-FEELING CREATIVE
-FEELING STRONG
-FEELING POWERFUL
-FEELING CAPABLE
-FEELING DEPENDABLE
SENSORY PLEASURE
-SMELLS THAT BRING MEMORIES
-PLEASANT SMELLS
-SILKS, FURS, ETC.
-LOTIONS, PERFUMES
-TOUCHING
-SMILING
-LAUGHING
-SINGING
-HUMMING
-MAKING FEELING GOOD SOUNDS
-BOUNCING
SEXUAL ACTIVITY
-FANTASY
-MAKING LOVE
-INNUENDO
-OTHER
SHARING
-NEW EXPERIENCES
-DISCOVERY
-FAVORITES
-OBSERVING TOGETHER (SEE CATEGORY)
-PLEASURES
-SPECIAL EVENTS
-A GOOD EXPERIENCE
-NEW POSSESSIONS
-GOSSIP
-GOOD NEWS
SPIRITUAL
-OBSERVING A MIRACLE
-CHILD'S FIRST COMMUNION
-CHILD CONNECTING WITH GOD
-FAITH
-PRAYER
-FEELING CLOSE TO GOD
-OBSERVING COURAGE
-OBSERVING NATURE
-MEDITATING
-RELAXING
-HEARING INSPIRING WORDS
SURPRISES
-BEING SURPRISED
-SURPRISING SOMEONE
-FINDING A SURPRISE
-OBSERVING SURPRISE
-IN THE MAIL
-SOMETHING SPECIAL OR MOMENTOUS HAPPENING
-GETTING UNEXPECTED MONEY
TEACHING/LEARNING
-GIVING HELPFUL ADVICE
-SEE PRODUCTIVE USE OF SKILLS OR KNOWLEDGE I TAUGHT
TOUCHING
-HUGGING
-EMBRACING
-MASSAGE
-HAND HOLDING
-SNUGGLING
-SQUEEZING
-HANDSHAKE
-ACCIDENTAL BRUSH
-EYE CONTACT
WINNING, ACHIEVING or REACHING GOALS
-FINDING OUT/KNOWING I'LL WIN
-WINNING A BUSINESS COMPETITION
-WINNING AT GAMBLING
-WINNING AT SPORTS
COMPETITION-
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